Detachment- A true connection!

This is my first write-up:

Whats better attachment or detachment?
If someone asks, what is better : attachment or detachment. Most of us would answer "obviously attachment". But its not. When we are attached to someone we share some common feelings, like we get happy when the other one is happy, we start crying when the other one is crying, we start worrying when the other one is worried. Somewhat we start attaching our feelings to their behaviour, their mood,their feelings.

But a person, when worried or when crying, needs someone who would behave normal in their situation, listen to the feelings or someone whose shoulder they could cry on. Basically he doesn't want someone who will cry with him, but someone who will show a way out from the situation, who will strengthen him, who will tell him every thing will be fine! This happens when we detach ourselves from the person. Why does a child need a counselor when he is mentally disturbed? Because he knows if he shares this with mother, she will also start worrying. A person needs someone who could provide him with the opposite vibes.

This is why detachment is the true connection and not attachment.

                                                            ~Kshitija